You failed to see
You failed to see that my child would suffer for the rest of their life [...]
Jul
The Tragedy Behind the System’s Lens
There is a specific kind of grief that doesn’t belong to death, but feels entirely [...]
Jul
The Aftermath
Child-to-parent violence is a soul-destroying thing. In times of desperation you need a voice, someone [...]
Jul
Who Holds the Holders?
There is a story that services understand easily: a child with complex needs and parents [...]
Jul
Injustice
The Local Authority’s Refusal to Recognise Trauma Resulted in Harm to the Children This document [...]
Jul
My family was destroyed
They created the conditions in which the conviction became possible and contact became impossible. The [...]
Jul
Why Does Change Take So Long? A Reflection on Accountability, Learning and the Future of Adoption
Introduction PATCH was founded on a simple belief: that children deserve to be understood, families [...]
Jun
Understanding Childhood Trauma Through the Lens of Children
Understanding Children Through the Lens of Trauma, Adaptation and Predictive Processing This document was inspired [...]
Jun
See Me
I was recently shamed for asking about my own identity. I was told, quite bluntly, [...]
Jun
PATCH Paper – What Is the Real Reason Behind the Toxic Bias Faced by Adopters and Carers?
What is the Real Reason Behind The Toxic Bias Faced By Adopters and Carers
Jun
How Easily The Child Can Become Lost Within The Process..
By Cassandra Adoption is often spoken about in milestones. Matching day. First introductions. Placement. Adoption [...]
Jun
200th Milestone
Since April 2023, PATCH has reached a milestone of 200 moments of holding space, sharing [...]
May
Disrupted Childhood Development
We do not see children by looking only at behaviour, crisis, or outcomes. We see [...]
May
FASD Slides – Dr Alan Price – Lecturer in Psychology – Uni of Salford
Please see the slides from the webinar with Dr Alan Price. If people want advice [...]
Three stories of Pre Order Disruptions
Story One By Marie When I first heard about the child who was going to [...]
May
‘Context doesn’t matter’
The Support is a Lie: When Systems Choose Not to See When I adopted, I [...]
Apr
Off topic – The Shame That Isn’t mine to Carry
It was a relationship that became something else. Not suddenly, and not in a way [...]
Apr
Adoptee – Open Letter to Social Services & Adoption Professionals
To UK governments, councils, schools, local authorities, social services, family courts, regional and voluntary adoption [...]
Mar
What do we mean by social ‘care’?
Lived Experience: Adoption, Violence and Systemic Failure I am a former social worker and an [...]
Dec
From HOPE to HARM – betrayed by systems…
My husband and I adopted our three children over 10 years ago. They were all [...]
Dec
I am Kenny, See me.
Removed due to neglect – it’s more than a word… It looked like a home, [...]
Nov
Collation of information on all things adoption etc
Collation of information on all things adoption etc. 📚 UK Research, Voices & Perspectives on [...]
Aug
The adoption crisis: fewer parents, more waiting children — what adopters want you to know…….
According to numerous sources there are more children waiting to be adopted than there are [...]
Aug
An Open Letter on Systemic Failings and the Need for Change in Child Permanence
An Open Letter on Systemic Failings and the Need for Change in Child Permanence To [...]
Jul
A Painful Journey, Unheard Pain, Unseen Trauma & Missing Justice, By Patch, on behalf of Emily
When the social worker was first handed this case, one wonders — did they feel [...]
Jun
First Aid Kit – Webinar Recording 25th June 2025
FIRST AID KIT FOR ADOPTERS/ CARERS FACING SYSTEMIC CHALLENGES Webinar Recording Now Available Watch a [...]
Jun
The Adopted Child
A child removed – Their journey ignored , their recovery overlooked. Recorded – Tuesday 17th [...]
Jun
The Stepping Stones Of Adoption
By Fiona Wells Preamble: Setting The Stage This isn’t a straight or predictable path, but [...]
Jun
The Edge To Permanence Conference
A Journey to Crisis or Healing Join us for a grounded, reflective conference, the [...]
Jun
Mum’s Hell – Article in the Sun News
Sun News – 11.06.2025 – Mum’s hell https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/35341747/adoption-disaster-gave-back-kid-homeless/ Nikki Watkins – Heather Main I adopted [...]
Jun
PATCH Pathway Pillars – Mission Statement
PATCH Pathway Pillars Our Mission Statement Advocating for trauma-responsive, recovery-focused care that safeguards the whole [...]
Jun
Beyond Adoption – Expanding the Community, Reframing the Focus
PATCH – Passionate Adopters Targeting Change with Hope was founded by an adopter and then [...]
Jun
The Ignored Cycle of Hurt, By Lottie
Tommy & Harper Harper was born first, then Tommy — two children born into a [...]
May
Reframing See The Other Possible Narratives
Reframing the Story of Parenting Through Trauma A child who is born into, or removed [...]
May
Advice From an Adopter to Future Adoption – Anon
One Child, Time and Continuity My advice for future adopters would be make sure you [...]
May
Sam and James – Broken Hearts
Sam and James’ Story Sam and James are a loving couple who have been together [...]
May
Letter to Janet Daby – Children’s Minister
Dear Janet, I am writing to you on behalf of the PATCH community – Passionate [...]
May
Daisy – Came Into the World Already Fighting
Daisy, shared by Kate Daisy came into the world already fighting. She was born under [...]
May
Overview of Disruption
Overview of Adoption Breakdown If you are an adoptive parent reading this article, then you [...]
Mar
Support That Actually Supports
Support That Actually Supports ASF therapies We adopted our children, full siblings, when they were [...]
Mar
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